I had thirty minutes before SafeSpaceSunday would start and I did not want to be late. I also knew that if I didn’t get a walk in around the neighborhood that my step count would be severely lacking for the day. It had to be done, I decided. Unscrewing the handle from the broom that I use like David’s slingshot against Goliath (only I was going to jab a loose dog to death) I readied myself for my music-less brisk pace walk in the heat of the day. It had to be done, and quickly, or so I thought.
As I rounded the corner, I happened to see a neighbor working in their front yard. I had seen this neighbor numerous times, only we never had exchanged real words. Maybe an occasional “Hi”, but no real substance. Was he married, a widow, or an ax murderer? I wouldn’t know.
I was halfway past his front yard when we exchanged our regular “hellos” only this time we had a real conversation. I learned that he went to high school with my father, that he was in real estate, that he had spent some time in Oklahoma. He learned from me that I was growing weary in my current environment, was disgruntled about my writing career, and was dead set on movement, but the who, the how and the where were currently alluding me. During this exchange I learned that he was about peace, and I was about action.
As he gave me insight on properly laying foundation, I impatiently shifted my weight from foot to foot, constantly checking my timer to see just how many minutes I had left before I would need to cut my walk short altogether.
“I don’t have time for this” was the thought reverberating through my mind. I had somewhere to be.
And as I was anxiously wishing for movement, completion and pretending those two things would bring me rest, I paused and looked at my neighbor, as he slowly and methodically poured what look like soil onto a portion of his yard. He looked so peaceful. So at ease with the flow of life, and I instantly felt frustration. I wished I could be slow. I’ve never been one to sit still, not since I was a child. In fact, there was once a time period where I would get F’s on assignments for rushing. One year felt like the year of rushing, doctor visits and rugs. My mother cried often. I don’t blame her, the only child you have and the school says they don’t focus.
What’s the rush?
I sit in this season, asking myself this question. I have always been headed somewhere and fast. There’s a difference between busyness and productivity. Or, as my good friend says, “all good ain’t God.”
As this man slowly spoke to me with what seemed like not a care in the world, I watched the soil fall to the empty patch of grass in his front yard. I watched the squat that he held so comfortably and laughed to myself. He had to be about 60+ hitting the Meg thee stallion squat comfortably, yet my 31-year-old self couldn’t even sit criss cross applesauce.
“I need to stretch more” I thought to myself.
I need to slow down, actually. Because, where I was headed was not going anywhere. And, being in a state of perpetual motion (I have learned) simply leaves one exhausted and confused.
I thanked him for his time, and finished my shortened walk and made it to where I was headed early.
The Beauty of Slowness
Slowness is beautiful, and if we are all gardeners or farmers in life’s soil, things grow and bloom when they are ready. Not a second before. In the midst of me sprinting places, I am learning that whatever is going to happen, will happen. There’s a song titled “Stop Trying to be God.” I imagine it speaks about the illusion of control. I say the word illusion, because we really have no true control over outcomes in life, just strategy and effort. The flowers bloom and the crops grow when in season. We can cultivate the soil. Till it, pray for rain, smile at sunshine. But growth is God, and we can’t control God.
The beauty of caterpillars dying to become butterflies and moving with intention is that rushing is living blindly. Smelling roses in the rose garden when you’re there is better than imagining what roses smell like when you’re gone. Dreaming of bigger rose gardens when you’re amongst sunflowers is making an agreement to forever be discontent.
As I ramble, it now comes to me the bible verse where the apostle Paul mentions being content in all situations. Paul must have embraced slowness.
As you, whoever you are think about walking in life’s garden, headed somewhere, but on a path rather quickly to nowhere, may you take it from me that the soil is where the growth takes place, that rushing is living blindly, and that you are a neighbor to someone. Sniff the roses and take a squat. It does not have to be done quickly, this I know. Slowness is growth, and growth is beauty.
I love you,
Tonee B. Shelton